I’M ON A ROLLER COASTER CALLED LIFE BUT WITH A LIFE JACKET!

I’M ON A ROLLER COASTER CALLED LIFE BUT WITH A LIFE JACKET!

The first day I entered into the NIFT – it was my dream come true. I never thought that I could achieve such greater heights, amidst the situation that pertained in my home, couple of years back.

HOW MY WORLD FELL APART…

My father is an employee in a software company and my mother is a homemaker. We are two daughters and my sister is 4 years younger to me. Though we had everything to lead our life, something was constantly missing – the warmth. My parents were always obsessed with my future rather than my present, and were constantly forcing me to live my life as per their expectations. This had put me in a place where I could neither live my life as I had wished, nor live up to their expectations. They never respected me or treated me as a friend and they really believed that was the best way to raise teens. I had accepted the hard fact that my life is going to be like this, that was the time ‘he’ entered my life.

I was doing my 11th grade and he was a street mechanic. Deprived of love and care from people around me, I loved the way he pampered me. He was like a medicine to my wounds. He complimented me for my looks, my talents and encouraged me, whenever I was depressed. Suddenly, life became beautiful with this relationship, of course nobody knew about it.

One day, as fate would have it, I was spotted in a public place with my boyfriend by my teachers. It blew up out of proportion and soon became the talk of the Staff room and eventually to the principal room. My principal, who did not care to understand any of my feelings or needs and never bothered to see the situation from my standpoint, made me feel embarrassed and guilty in front of the whole school. None of my reasoning was accepted. My parents were called to the school and as a disciplinary measure, I was sent off the school.

WHO PAYS FOR THE MISTAKE?

I can never forget the shocked look of my parents, when my 6 years of student life in the same campus ended in 30 minutes meeting. They did not even know as how to react, received the TC pleading guilty to the authorities. No prizes to guess that my relationship came to an end. Total prison. As I was trying immensely to manage my emotional mess, I had so much difficulty in getting admission in the mid of the academic year into a new school. We had knocked every school and received similar responses – no new admission in mid year, no new admissions to 12th either.

I was in an emotional trauma, and was completely done with my life, when my father’s friend told us about Kirtanya and the way she could help us as a family to tackle this tough time in life.

RAINBOW AFTER THE STORM

I attended the Flying Elephants Workshop, a place where I was seen for what I was capable of and not what I did in the past. It seemed as though, every session in the workshop was designed only for me. (Later I checked that it was the same feeling for every teen in the batch!) I felt, I could sit there all my life. Kirtanya is the most loving and understanding person I have ever met. She listened to my story empathetically and told me what nobody ever said – “It’s not your fault.’ It brought tears in my eyes and I could sleep for the first time in 6 months of my troubled situations. My parents also, attended her parenting session in Flying Elephants and realised that their approach kept hurting me, though their intention was to help me become better in life.

The workshop was life changing, not only for me, but for my whole family. Usually, what we all do is blame yourself/others for the happenings of the past, rather than thinking of a way to handle the present. As the ‘Survival of the fittest’ theory states, only the people who evolve better from the past will survive the future. This workshop is an evolution from the ‘Blame mode’ to the ‘Responsibility mode’, which transformed me completely and made all of us to focus on the present.

We stopped blaming each other, we became as one team and fought the war literally! I could not get admission in any other school since it was my 12th grade. We did not give up. I chose to get into NIOS stream from home, attended tutions when I could not do it myself.

I’M ON A ROLLER COASTER CALLED LIFE BUT WITH A LIFE JACKET!

One fine day, I heard that my boyfriend had drunk poison and wanted to see me since I was the reason for his state today. I again felt sad and bad and did not know how to react. It was again the counseling by MindFresh, that helped me to regain my balance and do what was right for everybody.

I came for all MindFresh programs, sometimes I repeated the same workshop as a coach. Every time I came, I gained new energy and felt motivated to become what I was capable of. My results in NIOS, were something that I would be proud of till the last day of my life and I have got admission in NIFT for the course, that I had wanted.

Now we all are emotionally connected very well, that we understand each other’s values and respect each other’s efforts. This workshop really transformed the old us and made us understand what life actually is and the how it can me made more reasonable and fruitful.

I am glad I found Flying Elephants and Kirtanya at the right time in my life. And I wish that everyone who wants to excel, finds them too!